Riding a Pink Little Pony
This blog post is a result of much thought and introspection and comes after discussions with one of my high school students about his experiences, both positive and negative, as a young Brony.
As a parent I would never knowingly or intentionally allow my child into a situation where harm, physical or mental, could or would come to them.
The above statement is one to which we can all agree. It comes to my mind every single time I read about the outrage a young child’s parents feel when their son or daughter has been subjected to peer bullying, shunning, or plain old meanness due to something as seemingly inconsequential as a backpack or lunchbox.
First, life is not fair. If life were fair, no one would care about anyone else’s backpack, lunchbox, or flair for fashion. We would all feel as free as a bird to express ourselves as we wish without worry of negative peer reprisal.
Second, life is not fair. If life were fair, people wouldn’t be mean, especially children. I can guarantee you every single one of us has a negative memory that goes back to childhood and it involves another child.
Third, life is not fair. If I life were fair, children would not have to learn life isn’t fair because adults choose to abdicate their role as a parent and allow a child to be subjected to harm, physical or mental, because the parent thinks the child is prepared to prove a point about something as seemingly inconsequential as a backpack or lunchbox.
Schools are in the people business, if you will. They are filled with imperfect human beings who by most accounts are doing the best they can to educate and be educated. The adult human beings leading the school have enough on their plates educating students, managing the multitude of details, many minute but necessary, and dealing with the reality of keeping the bad people away from the school all while including character education, sex education, and life-in-general education without being required to deal with the preventable provocations of the dark side of human nature that even children are known to display through peer bullying, shunning, or plain old meanness.
So, when you allow your baby boy to ride a pink little pony into harm’s way be prepared for the worst.
Odds are his peers will be mean to him.
Odd are his heart will be broken.
Odds are you will become outraged.
As a parent you should never knowingly or intentionally allow your child into a situation where harm, physical or mental, could or would come to them.
But if you do, when it gets right down to it, you have only yourself to blame.